who gets to have attraction first

thatdiabolicalfeminist:

thatdiabolicalfeminist:

So many straight guys are so horrified by the remotest possibility of someone they’re not attracted to being attracted to them.

Like given the smallest suspicion of a one-way crush they’ll be truly awful to women they consider unattractive or men who like men, even if the person in question doesn’t even come close to flirting with them.

But then they turn around and fucking harass women who don’t return their attraction – with zero self-awareness. It’s truly mind-boggling to see the same guy say some cruel shit to repel the ‘advances’ of a gay man or a fat girl who barely glanced in his direction and like thirty seconds later be pushing his luck with some girl who’s already said three times she’s not interested.

That’s fucked up.

It’s honestly just blatant policing of who is allowed to have initial attraction, and that I think really comes from this fucked up idea that attraction (hell, you could argue interaction in general) exists purely for their own benefit and pleasure.

Straight men get angry to the point of violence both at receiving non-intrusive interest that’s unwanted and at not receiving the interest that is wanted because they feel entitled to have their own wants and needs be the defining factor in all interactions.

They literally – frequently – expect other people to feel exactly what is convenient to them, and this phenomenon is a really obvious example. A major component of male entitlement is the bedrock assumption that anyone having emotions that don’t cater to a man’s interests is somehow attacking him.