this idea that the things you want in fiction can be Bad or Good because they are THE SAME as the Bad or Good things you want in real life is so bananas to me. i mean: my number one most potent and comforting fantasy is about chris evans shielding me from an earthquake with his strong back and then i treat his wounds and we bond while trapped in the ruins of a building. this is how i lull myself to sleep at night. or jason momoa finds me dying in some snow and tenderly carries me back to his cabin, where he bathes my fevered brow and wonders about my secrets. like, that’s not what i……these are not things i want to happen, actually, in life
Are you a woman that obscures or has obscured that fact so as to participate in online communities — ANY online community — without harassment from men? RB if so.